Utilizing Mediation Romsey as an autistic individual

May 16, 2022

As a person with autism or the parent of an autistic child involved in a family conflict, you may have a number of questions about the Mediation Romsey process and its accessibility. Here, we answer some of the first questions you may have with Autism Spectrum Disorder, mediation, and how it may be modified by all parties to give you with the most favourable environment and outcome. Family Mediation Choice is completely accessible to autistic clients, and our mediators are trained to tailor sessions to your needs!

What is Autism Spectrum Disorder?

Autism is a spectrum condition and a chronic, lifelong developmental impairment that often manifests in infancy. According to the National Autistic Society, around 700,000 adults and children in the United Kingdom have currently been diagnosed with autism. Autism generally impairs a person's capacity for communication, self-regulation, relationship maintenance, and social interaction. It is essential to keep in mind, however, that autism is an illness on a spectrum, that its definition varies as we learn more about the condition, and that it affects individuals differently.

In the United Kingdom, the World Health Organization's International Classification of Diseases, 10th Revision (ICD-10) is used to diagnose autism in children. Autism may be indicated by non-verbal or odd speech patterns, difficulty interpreting symbolic or metaphorical communication, difficulty making or keeping friends, restricted or repetitive behaviour, gestures, activities, and sounds. Autism can manifest in a variety of ways, at various stages of development, and to varying degrees.

What does Mediation Romsey consist of?

Mediation Romsey may appear to be a daunting endeavour and a venture into uncharted territory. However, our goal is to help you grasp the process and its potential advantages for you and your loved ones. We have separated the process of mediation into four stages:

  • Meeting for Mediation Information and Evaluation (MIAM). You will get the opportunity to grasp how mediation may best serve you and your family. This session can run between 45 minutes and 1 hour, and you will explore the Mediation Romsey process, the best conflict resolution format for you and your family, the advantages of mediation, the anticipated number of sessions, and your eligibility for Legal Aid-funded mediation. Either getting a benefit that qualifies for passporting, such as Universal Credit, or having a low income is required to qualify for Legal Aid. For further details, please contact our team.
  • After you have attended your own MIAM, we will send a letter inviting the other party to Mediation Romsey. They will attend their own own MIAM if approved. If they are also assessed to be receptive to mediation, joint mediation sessions will be scheduled.
  • At the MIAM, the family mediator will explain the various ways of Mediation Romsey and assist you in selecting the most appropriate one. There are also discussions with children and cooperative mediation. To learn more, please go here.
  • The Mediation Romsey Agreement follows. During your first Joint Session, you will get this document, which describes how mediation works and sets its rules. Before the session begins, you and your prior partner must sign this. Please indicate on your MIAM if you would want a copy of the agreement prior to your joint mediation session, and your mediator will be happy to help!
  • The Mediation Romsey method is partnering with your mediator and ex-spouse to determine how you and your children will live following your divorce. There is no predetermined length for mediation, and it might span many sessions depending on the nature of the dispute and the number of problems to be handled. To maximise the benefits of mediation, you should establish an agenda outlining the issues you'd like to discuss throughout your sessions. Learn more about the mediation method by clicking here.
  • At the completion of the Family Mediation Romsey process, your mediators will explain how you may receive legal advice and formalise any agreements or court orders that have been reached. This is the foundational concept of mediation: a mediator will never tell you what to do. Instead, they may propose that you consult with another doctor or investigate your options.
  • In the event that no agreement is achieved, your mediator will provide you with a signed document permitting you to initiate legal proceedings. In the end, the decision is all yours!

Can my autistic child and I take part in mediation?

The short answer is indeed! All clients have access to Mediation Romsey, a technique of dispute resolution that is voluntary, self-directed, and court-adjacent. At the MIAM, where you will have the opportunity to discuss your case with a professional mediator, you may bring any important information about yourself, your case, or the mediation procedure to their attention. If you have autism, you can discuss it with your mediator and explain any necessary adjustments. During the MIAM, you will be able to discuss your problems with the mediator and work together to remedy them.

The entirety of our lives, from grocery shopping to family court, have gone online during the past two years. Fortunately, Family Mediation Choice is years ahead of the curve, and our current 100 percent virtual service structure is just as accessible, if not more so, than traditional service models. Zoom and WhatsApp are the most popular scheduling applications for one-on-one or group discussions. Even if it means grabbing a cup of tea, we recommend that you make yourself as comfortable as possible throughout the meeting, as the method will remain the same. Your child is not required to participate in mediation unless both parties agree that Child Inclusive Mediation is acceptable, and even then, only under certain situations.

How would the mediation process proceed for a client with autism?

There is no "one size fits all" approach to mediation, and persons with autism are no exception. During the course of the mediation process, a number of family-related issues and concerns may need to be addressed, notably in respect to navigating relationships, making adaptations, and scheduling. Although there is no "standard technique" for modifying the Mediation Romsey procedure, the fundamental purpose is always to establish the most fruitful talks possible by insuring or encouraging communication between all parties. Remember that the agenda is determined by the participants!

Depending on the facts of your situation, the mediator can present you with a step-by-step summary of the meeting agenda following your MIAM. If it would be useful, please contact Family Mediation Choice if we can supply you with further information, such as visual aids, geographical facts, or more explicit instructions on how to approach mediation. The sessions may appear to be arranged to ensure that you feel confident and supported, but the timing and processes will be flexible to avoid placing you under unnecessary stress and to give you time to reflect. Individuals react differently to sensory stimuli, and despite the virtual nature of Family Mediation Choice mediation meetings at now, we may limit sensory stimulation in our settings to alleviate anxiety caused by particular photos, words, or other visual stimuli. As always, we would like to emphasise that the participants retain control of the process, while the mediators are here to assist you and facilitate the discussions!

How can mediators from Family Mediation Choice offer autistic clients with a safe and friendly environment?

The fundamental purpose of our Mediation Romsey services is to help you reach a self-realized resolution by guiding you through the issues and alternate courses of action. To aid in accomplishing this objective, our mediators strive to tailor the mediation process to each client's unique needs and concerns. Family Mediation Choice mediators may be requested to communicate more plainly and openly with autistic individuals with communication issues. By urging that your mediator maintain clarity, calm, and brevity, you may help keep the debate on-topic and aid them in avoiding distracting forms of communication such as gesture, metaphorical language, and digressions. Mediation is characterised by constant back-and-forth dialogue, which often includes an abundance of questions. Mediators will make these queries as succinct and specific as feasible, avoiding open-ended questions with many and sometimes misleading responses. Everyone works at their own pace, and your mediator may direct the dialogue as slowly or swiftly as is required! If you are also used to engaging in activities associated with attention deficit disorder, echolalia, or stimming, advise your mediator of the environmental signals that can be modified to help the process.

What will my mediator expect from me?

Communication is the most important aspect of the Mediation Romsey process, and it is crucial to remember that it is a two-way street! Try to be as receptive as possible to dialogues with your ex-spouse and mediator regarding your case and how the procedure has been modified to meet your needs. Provide them with feedback or suggestions on their preferred speaking styles, means of communication, discussion formats, and any further visual aids that may be necessary. Remember to notify them as thoroughly as possible about the circumstances. Although this may look daunting, your mediator will never speak trash to you or place you in a position that causes insult or embarrassment. By collaborating with you, we strive to assist, not judge - in every sense of the phrase!

Can I bring a friend to my Mediation appointment?

Participants with autism, whether they are adults or children, may benefit from the presence of a support person during the Mediation Romsey session. This is especially crucial in cases involving children with autism, as a support person may aid the child in communicating their concerns, thoughts, and emotions - especially when communication barriers exist. In most cases, third parties are not invited to mediation sessions; however, exceptions are always conceivable. A support person can aid you in communicating your objectives and emotions to the mediator and other parties involved. However, the presence of this individual is contingent upon the consent of all parties involved.

It is advised that your support person not be a member of your immediate family or a close friend. Under some instances, you may bring a family member or close friend to mediation. All parties in the mediation must agree to the presence of the support person, and your mediator must deem this acceptable. You may bring a friend or family member to your MIAM, however combined sessions require permission.

Contact our Autism Champion if you have any questions or want further clarification.
Please contact your mediator in advance if you or your child might benefit from having a support person present during the Mediation Romsey session. This will ensure that all parties present consent to the presence of the support advocate.

What if I have unique requirements?

Family Mediation Choice's purpose is to promote a productive and friendly environment for all of our customers. This means that we want for our Mediation Romsey process to be as personalised, self-directed, and accessible as possible. If there are elements of this essay that resonate with you, please feel free to discuss them with your mediator during the MIAM. This will help all parties change their communication structure and style, as well as make any required adjustments, so that everyone is on a level playing field. Nevertheless, if you're reading this article and you're in a whole other league, that's just OK! This method to make mediation accessible to clients on the spectrum is not exhaustive; thus, feel free to bring your specific needs to the firm's attention.


We would like to emphasise that Mediation Romsey is all about providing you with the support you need to make self-directed and self-realized family decisions. By introducing you to the most essential sorts of mediation and by developing multidirectional communication channels, we want to facilitate this procedure. We want to provide a welcoming environment for autistic persons. At any step of the process, Family Mediation Choice strongly encourages participants to communicate their requirements to the mediator about the mode of communication, discussion formats, the need for visual aids, and the involvement of a support advocate. Contact Family Mediation Choice if you or your kid has autism and you would want more information or answers to more questions.

For further information, please contact us at this number: 03300 100 309.

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